If you have a special needs child (or children) and are considering homeschooling I hope you will read through this post (I apologize mine is a little long) as well as the other great posts in this Blog Hop, which you will see at the bottom of the post and that you will feel encouraged and empowered! Homeschooling special needs children IS possible!
When I knew we were expecting our first I knew I wanted to homeschool. I actually knew that if I was blessed to be a mom I wanted to homeschool.
I am very blessed that I married a Godly man who is very supportive of homeschooling. There was hardly a discussion – more of a known agreement. God had really placed it on both of our hearts. We’re going to be parents! God is blessing us with this child (eventually, children), and it is our responsibility to raise them, which includes educating them.
It wasn’t based on anything we knew or grew up with. Neither of us were homeschooled and didn’t know very many people who were or who were homeschooling their children. We were excited to embark on the journey of parenthood and all the responsibilities it entailed nonetheless including their spiritual guidance and education.
Our oldest son was such a sweet, easy baby, and we were so excited to be parents. When he was around 15 months old we realized something wasn’t quite right. I was almost due with our daughter when we first discovered he had a definite speech delay and the first mention came up that he might have PDD-NOS, which is high functioning on the Autism Spectrum.
To be honest, we blew off the idea. He was a toddler! He was just frustrated because he had a speech delay, which is probably genetic because my husband had one. This is what we told ourselves until the behaviors escalated.
To make a long story short we went through a few more evaluations (and a few misdiagnosis) before there was a roundabout that came back to – you guessed it – PDD-NOS. Our son is on the Autism Spectrum. They say that with a diagnosis a little bit of your hopes and dreams for your child dies, but mine started fading in the evaluations, referrals, etc. Everything I thought I knew about our plans as parents, as a family, were becoming blurry.
Homeschooling? How? We had to request a disability-based move from two-story to one-story housing because I couldn’t control my child and my pain disorder and still feel like everybody (including his little sister) was safe. The feeling was overwhelming.
So, by the time he was 3 he was in a special education preschool class, and he did very well. Of course, I would get reports back about his typical triggers, but overall, it seemed to be really good for him with the exception of his bad attitude. I figured he was just cranky from no longer getting a nap.
I talked to his teacher who was wonderful, and one of my biggest concerns I expressed was how would I explain to him later on why his siblings were going to be homeschooled but he wouldn’t. Yes, I had made up my mind. There was no way I could homeschool him. He NEEDED that environment, right? It seems to be what so many people recommend and we’re led to believe. I took my focus COMPLETELY off of God and gave into my fears.
By the time Kindergarten rolled around God was using people he had placed in my life to speak to me and encourage me. Some were homeschooling children on the Autism spectrum, and they were telling me how much BETTER their child was doing since they were homeschooled. Some didn’t have special needs children but were just amazing, loving examples that shared their hearts with me.
I may have hardened MY heart to His Will, but they were listening and He was working through them to reach me. Would you believe I ignored them? I sent him to Kindergarten at the public school I was so convinced he needed. It was a nightmare. This decision that I thought was so right finally slapped me in the face as being clearly WRONG. I withdrew him from public school the second week, and we have been homeschooling ever since.
Not everybody will have that “A ha!” moment like me, and I pray they don’t have to. I pray that if you are feeling like I did – like you can’t possibly homeschool a special needs child – stop. Take a moment (maybe a long moment) and just listen to what God is trying to tell you. He may be talking to you through your friends or a nudging at your spirit, but consider the cost if you don’t listen.
I pray nobody has to have negative experiences to say “woah! this is wrong!” That is what it took for me, and that is exactly why I created this project. I wanted others to share their experiences as well. I want to encourage others before they hit that wall. Maybe you have hit that wall and you’re still uncertain. I’ll pray for you. Maybe your child still has a couple of years until they’ll be in Kindergarten but you’ve already made up your mind – I encourage you to open up again! You CAN do it!!
We are proof that you can homeschool special needs children. Yes, children. Plural. All three of our children have special needs. Our younger two children have Sensory Processing Disorder – as it turns out – so do I! Can you imagine the despair I would have felt if I hadn’t decided to trust God and homeschool our children. I would be homeschooling none of them because they all have special needs.
We’re definitely not the most likely family to homeschool. We DO have hard days. I have pain flare-ups still, the kids have hard moments and meltdowns, and my husband helps when he cans, but he has had cancer twice, so he has his bad days as well.
But do you know what? We’re doing it! The kids are happy and healthy and plugging along! Our oldest son’s behaviors have improved considerably since we started homeschooling. You see, what “they” said we needed was the exact opposite. He needs his parents who love him, understand him, and care about his spiritual life. He needs to be taught how to live out in the world, not in a class room with same-age peers. They all do.
There are things about our special needs children that we cannot change, but what we can do is pray for them, love them for who God made them to be, and learn from them. Yes, I’ve learned a lot from my children, and our whole family has been blessed by homeschooling. I pray we will be a blessing to yours as well.
In addition to the Blog Hop, some homeschooling moms with special needs children wanted to share some words of encouragement:
“Nobody cares about your child like you do. Being there daily to help them deal with all the challenges can make all the difference.” – Karen @ Harbor Lights
“When I took my son (high-functioning Autism Spectrum) out of school it was because he was small for his age, needs were not being met at school, and {he} would have been entering a middle school that would have been disastrous for him. It has been hard at times, but we’ve never regretted our decision. He has come a long long way with learning life skills and educationally too. We still have difficult days, but we just keep looking forward…..” – Susan G.
“Trust that God has a purpose for putting this desire in your heart and move forward with faith and prayer. You know your child best and no one else is more invested in his/her best interests and education than you are!” – Sara @ Embracing Destiny
“It’s very possible to homeschool a special needs child. No matter how bad you think your day has been your child has learned more that day than being in a classroom!” – Houry
“You may be on the fence about homeschooling your child but that all changes when you see your child’s face just light up because they finally start understanding and they get this look of I CAN DO IT! :)” – Sharon
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